Entitled

Saying that a slave master (and we’re talking U.S. slavery here) had to have been in love with his slave is 1) to me utter bullshit and 2) an apology for the rampant sexual abuse slaves of both sexes suffered for generations and beyond. It’s saying that the girls/women weren’t victims and therefore lends more credence to the idea spawned in slavery that Black women are unrapable, that BW are whor…es and temptresses, excuses used to rationalize slave rape. It’s basically lying and gaslighting and goalpostshifting trying to rename rape, often child rape, as love.

As for the reaction of the slave women to this “peculiar institution” they found themselves victimized by, I don’t blame them at all. They were trying to make the best of a shitty situation that was beyond their control. So quit the “well, why didn’t she leave/get free when she had the chance?” talk. Sounds a LOT like when folks ask why abused women don’t just leave their circumstances and abused women nowadays have infinitely more freedom to leave than a slave woman in the 18th and 19th centuries. There are plenty of reasons, complex and intricate as hell as to why many sexually abused slave women didn’t leave their abusers when they had the chance if they ever had the chance.

Oh, and just because I didn’t argue with you at the time, doesn’t mean I swallowed your arguments and claims that “he must have loved her/she must have loved him because…” It just means I didn’t see the point in arguing with you about it at the time because I didn’t have the spoons to deal with the inevitable fallout, physical and emotional drain and being labeled the Angry, Difficult Black Woman.